It is a normal reaction when you begin an adoption plan to want to immediately prepare a nursery, or to have friends offer to host a baby shower for you. While this is understandably an exciting, joyous time for you, you may want to instead plan on putting the finishing touches on the nursery and having a baby shower until after you bring the baby home.
However, having a perfectly completed nursery or celebrating at a baby shower may actually make the wait harder for you. Having a room full of baby gifts or a completed nursery down the hall may make the wait seem as if it inching by. Likewise, if you were to experience a failed match with an expectant mother, having a room full of baby gifts may make it harder for you to move past that match and on with your adoption plan. There will be plenty of time once you bring the baby home to put those special touches on the nursery and to celebrate with a baby shower. Also, by waiting until after you bring the baby home, you will be able to make those special touches that complement your new baby’s own unique personality.