How We Decided What to Say in Our Adoption Profile


Creating the perfect profile book to be shown to expecting mothers who would carefully consider us for adoption can seem like a most daunting task. What will she think of our family? What should we focus on? Should we have professional pictures taken to be included in our profile? What details of our life will an expectant mother find attractive?

My husband and I worked closely with our adoption consultant to guide us as we drafted a profile book that would present the most complete and honest representation of our family and all we hold dear. Our consultant stressed to us some of the important elements to help our profile book stand out with originality and a focus that captures attention for all the right reasons.

With the advice we received, we chose to include many aspects of our family to portray a genuine love and affection for each other as well as for the hope of a child through adoption. Below are the basic ideas we used in the conception and design of our profile book.

1. Use Professional Photos

We were advised to have some professional photos taken in order to use some higher-quality pictures. We wanted to use beautiful images to grab the attention of an expectant mother. A professional photo was used on the cover of our profile book for that “put-together” look for our first impression. This is the first thing that gets noticed and scrutinized before reading any details included in our profile.

2. Use Action Photos

Once we had put our best foot forward with a few professional photos, the remaining pictures we used depicted details of our family life. We still made sure that our image quality was not blurry or pixelated, but some of the photos were even taken with our smart phones. By using photos of us playing at the park, trips to the beach, farm life, and adventures with our family and friends, we are giving an expectant mother a look into our family’s likes and hobbies. These photos have a different purpose than the professional cover photo. Our action shots share our passions and life details with someone who is trying to get to know us better.

3. Show Our Originality

We want to deliver a profile that will share what makes our family special and unique. In our profile, we included how not only our immediate family, but also our extended family and friends are anxiously awaiting the arrival of an adopted child into our family and the love we all have to offer. We also involved pictures and details about each member of our family: our favorite foods, preferred vacation spots, choice of hobbies and more. My husband and I shared our occupations, and we shared what types of personalities our daughters have. In pictures, an expectant mother can see that we live in the country, love to travel, go to the zoo, like to try new foods, and enjoy time with friends and family. An expectant mother can see our profile and hopefully be able to relate to something our family does or see what we have to offer by learning more about how we stand out.

4. Letter to the Expectant Mother

At the beginning of our profile is a letter that we have written to an expectant mother who is about to dive into making a decision for her child. We introduce ourselves and some important details about our family. Then, our desires are made apparent to her about growing our family through adoption and why we are passionate about it. We also use this time to express our hopes for her and her baby as well as hopes for our family and future. We hope when she reads this letter that she can feel like she has had a conversation with our family, and that it will be the best introduction for making a connection with a brave mom making an incredible decision.

The most important thing to remember when presenting your family in the form of a profile book is to be authentic and sincere. An expectant mother is making the biggest decision of her life, and she wants to know she made the right decision. Present your family with a genuine representation, and share why your family is special.

Jill is a 32-year-old wife and mom. She has been married to her husband, Brannon, for eight years and has 5-year-old and 1-year-old daughters. Jill and her husband are currently in the adoption process to bring another baby into their home. Jill lives in a small community in Kentucky. She has her Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Spanish and obtained her Master’s degree in Christian Ministries. Jill’s passions are her faith, her family, writing, playing sports, and eating good food.

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