Adoption might be the biggest decision you ever make.
If you’re considering adoption, you didn’t plan on being here. An unexpected pregnancy is one of life’s most disruptive surprises, regardless of your situation. As you mull over your unplanned pregnancy options, you might be looking for a sign. A clear, obvious signal that says, “Yes, adoption is right for you!”
We’ve got good news and bad news. First, the bad news. For most people, life doesn’t drop a giant, flashing sign with a clear answer about adoption. Every situation is unique, which means only you can know what will be best for you. But here’s the good news: there are smaller signs in life as you contemplate this decision that can guide you one way or another. In the end, you still have to make the call. There are things you can look for along the way that will help.
If you find yourself resonating with these five signs, then adoption could be right for your unplanned pregnancy.
1. The Financial Pressure of Pregnancy is Overwhelming
The majority of Americans say that money is a significant point of stress in their life. In fact, finances can cause such strong anxiety that it has become a common cause for declining health in the U.S. This stress is only compounded by an unplanned pregnancy, which creates new (and large) financial demands.
If you’re going to spend your entire pregnancy racked with anxiety, adoption might be the right decision. There are a couple reasons for this. First, constant stress during pregnancy can be harmful for both the mother and the baby. Doing what you can to alleviate that stress is going to be best for everyone. How does adoption help? Most pregnant women who choose adoption receive financial assistance for pregnancy-related expenses. This most certainly covers medical bills, and can also extend to living and transportation costs, depending on your situation.
If you don’t know how pregnancy is going to be financially possible, adoption could be the right unplanned pregnancy option for you.
2. The Idea of Being a Parenting is Terrifying
Moving past pregnancy, there’s a life of parenting ahead. What is your gut reaction when you think about that? It’s normal to be nervous. But if you go beyond nerves and into all-encompassing fear, then your body is trying to tell you something. It may not be time for you to be a parent.
Not being ready to be a parent is different than not being able to be a parent. There’s no shame in this feeling. Maybe you’ve dreamed of having a family, so feeling scared makes you feel inadequate. You shouldn’t. Many birth mothers go on to have families of their own at the right time. If right now isn’t right, that’s okay. You can choose adoption to create a new chance at life for yourself and your baby.
3. Your Relationship with the Father is Unstable
Supportive relationships make a significant impact on parenting. There’s an effect on you as a mother. During pregnancy and throughout parenting, a reliable partner can provide support, encouragement and assistance. Splitting the responsibility between two people can make everything less stressful.
There’s also the impact your relationship has on your child. Research has found that children in two-parent households are at a significantly smaller risk of things like dropping out of high school and being economically disadvantaged. If the father of the baby is unknown, unsupportive or does not want to be involved, adoption could be a good choice.
4. Life Has More for you Before You Become a Parent
It’s not that you can’t be a parent; it’s that you’re not ready to be a parent yet. You could be chasing your career goals, finishing your education or working hard to put yourself in a better financial situation. Whatever you are striving towards, you deserve the opportunity to achieve that goal, and an unplanned pregnancy could be a major roadblock.
You don’t have to give up on what you want for your life when you experience an unplanned pregnancy. Adoption gives you a fresh start and gives your baby the opportunity to grow up in a wonderful, loving family. If you know that there’s more for you to do in life before becoming a parent, then considering adoption is a good idea.
5. You Want the Best for the Baby
Adoption isn’t giving up, even though it’s common to hear about a woman “giving her baby up” for adoption. Rather, adoption is giving a chance at life. Women who choose adoption do so because they love their baby. They want to do what is best for this child, and that might be adoption. It’s not giving up at all — it’s making a brave, loving choice.
In modern-day adoption, you can even stay connected with your child through open adoption. Continued contact in the form of photos, letters, emails, phone calls and potentially even in-person meet-ups is common for birth mothers. This way, you can see your child growing and thriving with their adoptive parents and feel confident that you made the right choice.
These five signs can point you in the direction of adoption. Ultimately, the choice is up to you. If it’s the right path, adoption can be one of the best things you’ll ever do, both for yourself and your baby. To learn more, contact us today. We will connect you with an adoption professional free-of-charge and with no obligations.