My Prayer for the Child I Placed for Adoption – Thoughts from a Birth Mother
I believe strongly in the power of prayer. I do not mean to push my beliefs on anyone, but I have honestly seen miracles as the result of prayer. I have seen miraculous physical healings, witnessed overnight emotional healing and been blown away by the impact of prayer in many other situations regarding spiritual fulfillment and peace. Prayer: it works.
As a birth mother, I pray for the child I placed for adoption. My son holds a place in my heart and in my prayers that no one else does. It is a special and secret place where my son lives within my own soul.
Here, I share with you some of my most important prayers for him. What do you pray for when it comes to the child whom you placed for adoption?
I Pray He Has a Healed Heart from Our Past
I was a mother for six months before I chose adoption for my son. It was him and me for that period, and it was so hard on both of us.
For example, I had every intention of mothering, which is why I was breastfeeding at the time I chose adoption. I had to force myself to quit breastfeeding as soon as I made my adoption decision, and that was probably one of the most difficult tasks I had to face. I’m sure it was hard on him also.
I do not know what kind of memories my son will carry with him or if any feelings of hurt will live inside of him. However, I pray that he has a healed heart from everything we went through surrounding my adoption decision. I know I did what was best for both of us, but that doesn’t change the fact that it was a very difficult transition.
I pray that my son’s heart is able to heal from anything in his past.
I Pray He Enjoys Every Moment of His Present
One of my greatest challenges is to live in the present moment. Now, my son is only 7, so this might be a little bit easier for him. As an adult, though, I find living in the present challenging. My mind is always racing to the next thing on my to-do list in the future and scrambling to reconcile the past. It’s a daily battle for me to just be in the present moment.
I don’t want life to be as difficult for my son as it seems to be for me at times. I pray that my son is able to enjoy every moment he is experiencing, maybe even to the point of feeling like everything is a magical first! Of course, that may be a tall order, but it’s still my prayer.
The beauty of a prayer is that no prayer is too big for God. We can pray for anything, and God will follow through on His promises in His own way. It is just up to us to be good receivers and recognize an answered prayer. So, I pray that my son is able to enjoy “the everyday” for his entire life.
I Pray He Has a Happy and Healthy Future
I know this prayer is a common prayer for every moment; we want our children to live happy and healthy lives. I want the same thing for the child I placed for adoption.
I want my son to grow up and find a peace for himself. I’m not concerned about how much money he will make, or what career or types of relationship choices he makes. My concern is that no matter what decisions my son makes, he does so from a healthy place.
I want those choices to make him happy, as well. I want him to live in a state of gratitude for everything he has and know how much he is loved by so many people, and most importantly, know that he is loved by God. I pray that my son has a happy and healthy future following his own path that he believes His creator has for him.
So, with all these prayers, what do I truly desire for my son? I desire that my son has a life full of spiritual peace. I have struggled to find peace within myself, especially when it comes to walking a path of healing with such brokenness in my past. I don’t want my son to have the same struggles I have had. I see the beauty of my adoption in breaking the cycle and setting my son free from any chains that bound him. I broke my family cycle by choosing adoption, instead of letting poverty and misery rule my life as a parent. I don’t want my son to live a life similar to mine, but I want him to grow into his own person with his own set of values.
I know that my prayers are just like the prayers of many parents, not just birth parents. We all want what is best for our children.
For me, I just pray my son heal from his past, live in his present and find peace in his future.
Lindsay is a guest blogger for Considering Adoption. She placed her son for adoption 7 years ago and hopes to use her experience to support and educate other expectant mothers considering adoption, as well as adoptive families.