What Happens When You Place Twins for Adoption?
Choosing adoption for your baby isn’t easy. So choosing adoption for your twins must be doubly difficult. If you’re like many mothers, there’s one thing at the front of your mind when thinking about adoption: I want my twins to stay together. We’re here today to give you good news. Modern-day adoption puts the birth mother in charge of the process. That means, among other things, that if you want your babies to stay together, they’ll stay together. You may have fears about how adoption will go, which is totally normal. What we’ve discovered over the years is that most fears are rooted in myths and common cultural misunderstandings. Take the adoption of twins, for instance. How many movies involve twins separated at birth and unknowingly meeting later in life? It’s a lot. But it’s not how things happen. As a woman experiencing unplanned pregnancy, we want you to feel secure and confident in your adoption plan. So, here’s how adoption works today, and why you don’t need to be afraid that your babies will be split up when you place twins for adoption.
How Adoption Has Changed — Putting the Mother in ChargeModern-day adoption and adoption from several decades ago are almost completely contrasting processes. Here’s what adoption used to be associated with: secrecy, shame, failure and powerlessness. Here’s what adoption means now: love, empowerment, opportunity and life. This shift has occurred within the last few decades. While we have a long way to go, we’ve also seen great progress. Back in the ‘50s, ‘60s and ‘70s, adoption was a shameful and secretive act. This was partially due to America’s sexual ethic at the time — an unplanned pregnancy, especially outside of marriage, was viewed as a horrible mistake. It also had to do with the orphanage system, which governed adoption. When you chose adoption, you were giving up all control. Almost all adoptions were closed, and the birth mother was given no say in what happened to her baby. Things are completely different today. Adoption is a brave act. It comes from a place of love. A woman choosing adoption does not need to feel ashamed of her choice. She’s doing something to give her baby and herself a chance at life. Additionally, she is in control of the adoption process. Gone are the days of leaving your baby with an institution and being cut out of the process. Today, the birth mother creates her adoption plan from start to finish, including choosing the adoptive parents she thinks will be best for her baby. Because of this, you can place twins for adoption with the confidence that they will always have each other.
Choosing the Perfect Adoptive Family for Both of Your BabiesYou get to choose the adoptive parents for your twins. You’ll do this with the help of an adoption professional by looking at many different adoptive family profiles. When you first choose adoption, you’ll create an adoption plan. In that plan, you’ll decide on several things, such as:
- The level of openness you want in your adoption
- That you want your twins to be adopted by the same family
- How you would like the hospital stay to go
- And more