Facing an unplanned pregnancy can be incredibly scary. But if there’s one thing to remember, it’s that you never have to be alone during this difficult time. No matter who you choose to tell about your pregnancy and your adoption plan, you’ll have a whole team of people ready to help. When you need help, here are five people that you should reach out to during your pregnancy.
1. A Support Group
There are thousands of other women who have been in your shoes, and many of them have chosen adoption for their babies. When you’re feeling alone, it can be reassuring to speak to other women who understand what you’re going through. There are many in‐person or online pregnancy support groups available for women in your situation. While both of these are great options if you feel like you have no one to turn to, you should always consider adding adoption qualified professional, like an options counselor or adoption specialist, to your support group.
2. Your Adoption Specialist
Your adoption specialist will be a pillar of support and guidance during your pregnancy. The right adoption specialist will be able to understand exactly what you’re going through. While you should absolutely form your own strong support group, your adoption specialist is a great person to turn to when you need help making a decision for your unplanned pregnancy or if you just need someone who can offer a kind word of advice.
A good adoption specialist will provide non-judgmental information and will be available whenever you need them. You adoption professional should also be knowledgeable about all of your unplanned pregnancy options, not just adoption. If you decide to work with an adoption agency, you’ll never have to worry about costs, as counseling is part of your adoption plan.
3. Your Friends and Family
It can be scary to open up about your pregnancy and adoption plan with your family and friends — especially when you’re unsure of how they’ll react.
The most important thing to remember is that you always have options when it comes to building a strong support team. Although it may be hard, your family and friends love you, and they want the best for you and your baby. Having people around you during your pregnancy will make a world of difference, so you should consider it as you’re creating your adoption plan.
4. A Medical Professional
Your doctor is one of the best people to reach out to during your pregnancy. It’s important to find the right medical professional who can meet your needs, so it’s a good idea to prepare a list of questions to ask before you meet them. Of course, if you’re having trouble finding a medical professional in your area, your adoption professional can help you find the best one that meets your needs. If you are having any medical concerns, don’t hesitate to reach out to a medical professional right away.
5. The Father of the Baby
If you can, and if the birth father is supportive of your pregnancy and your adoption plan, he can be a great member of your support system. If he is ready to get involved in the adoption process, the two of you can decide what kind of family you envision for your baby, along with other important decisions to make in the adoption process. Having the birth father involved in your adoption can offer a new perspective, and having a supportive birth father who cares about your adoption plan and your pregnancy can make a huge difference. Of course, this decision will always be up to you. Who gets to be a part of your support group will always be your choice to make.
If the birth father is supportive and ready to be involved, an adoption specialist can work with you and the birth father to create your own adoption plan. You might also find that you and the birth father have different ideas the ideas about the adoption plan, like how much interaction to have with the adoptive family and your child, and that’s okay, too. Your adoption specialist can help you make the best adoption plan that fits both of your needs.
Remember, You’re Never Alone
It’s easy to feel like you’re on your own in an adoption, but we want to reassure you that that’s not the case. There are so many people who are ready and willing to help meet all of your adoption‐related needs. Asking for information does not mean that you’re obligated to make an adoption plan, so learn more about your options from an adoption professional today.