Spiritual Healing in Music for a Birth Mother – Thoughts from a Birth Mother

I chose adoption seven years ago — when my heart was so broken, I couldn’t find the pieces to put myself back together. I knew that adoption was the right decision for me and for my child, but knowing that didn’t change the hurt that I experienced. My life felt like an absolute mess when I chose adoption, and I didn’t know how I would ever come out of the fog. I had so many hurts from my past, and they all seemed to resurface when I faced my adoption decision.

In the moment that I made up my mind regarding adoption, I found a strength within me that I didn’t know I had. It was almost as if there was some Creative Force supplying me with courage so that I could get through my adoption process and commence a path of healing.

My God Loves Me

The strength I found inside of me was something I knew as soon as I felt it. It was the Love of God. My God. I have heard many people say to me throughout my life, “You are strong. You can do this.” The truth is, on my own, I am weak. I need a faith to elevate me to higher places of insight and wisdom.

No matter what your beliefs are, everyone has a foundation of a faith. Whether you believe in God, yourself, nature or some other creative being, there is a place within us reserved for strength and courage. I was able to begin to tap into my faith during my adoption process. No matter how hard it got, I had a foundation to lean on. While it didn’t feel stable, looking back, it was just enough for what I needed at the time.

What Do I Really Believe?

So, if you find yourself needing strength and courage during an adoption process, please search diligently within yourself to find your faith. Perhaps these songs, their lyrics and the accompanying tune will help guide you to find a place of strength and courage within yourself. As you listen to these songs, consider what you believe in, who you believe in, and how you can apply that faith to your adoption situation. No matter what you are going through in your adoption process, know that you are not alone.

If I can get through adoption and come out the other side as a healing testimony, then you can get through it as well. There is healing on the other side.

Common Questions About Personal Faith

While you are listening to the following playlist, please consider asking yourself some of the following questions:

• Was I taught to believe in a specific religion as a child? If so, do I really believe what I was taught by others to believe?
• Have others extended their own beliefs to me, expecting me to take them on as my own?
• Do I really believe in a Higher Power? Or a Higher Self?
• What is the foundation on which I make my decisions?
• Is there something I believe in that brings me strength and courage?
• What do I really believe about God and/or spirituality?
• Do I subscribe to religion, or am I about the spirituality of my own faith?
• How can I apply my own beliefs about my faith to what I am going through now?
• Does what I believe line up with what Scripture says?
• Do I believe in the God of the Bible? Do I believe in another deity?
• What can I hold true in my heart to encourage me to continue pressing on through my darkest moments?

Feel free to journal about your answers. How you go through the questions is up to you. The most important part of asking yourself these questions is to answer them honestly. If we can’t be honest with ourselves, then we shall never find true freedom.

Playlist for Strength and Courage

For those of you who are ready for it, please soak yourselves in this playlist, and hopefully you will find a song that expresses your soul, speaks to your heart, and helps you in identifying your own strength and courage. I promise you: strength and courage in adoption can be found by searching diligently through your faith.

Inner Demons – Julia Brennan

https://youtube.com/watch?v=EPJSkSn7rt0

Warrior – Demi Lovato

Ophelia – Natalie Merchant

Tell Your Heart To Beat Again – Danny Gokey

You’re Gonna Be Ok – Brian & Jenn Johnson

Please always remember, you are never alone. If you are really struggling with your adoption decision, and you would like to talk to someone, please reach out to your support system. You don’t have to go through this alone.

If you can’t find anyone to talk to, consider calling an adoption agency like American Adoptions and asking about healing resources available to you, including unplanned pregnancy and adoption counseling. Remember, strength and courage may only be one more song away!

-Lindsay Arielle

Lindsay is a guest blogger for Considering Adoption. She placed her son for adoption 7 years ago and hopes to use her experience to support and educate other expectant mothers considering adoption, as well as adoptive families.