I Remember – Seeds Were Planted I remember bringing up the option of adoption to the birth father when I was about three months pregnant. He didn’t say a word. We were taking an evening walk, the atmosphere was tense, and I asked him what he thought about adoption. He had no comment. He literally […]

I love visiting my son. I love talking to my son. I believe that communication is crucial to have a healthy relationship with my son, or in any relationship for that matter. My hope, and my experience, is that as my son grows up, he knows how much I love him. He’s Just a Kid […]

There are so many resources out there regarding healing, spirituality, and trauma recovery. There are great resources that are positive and beneficial, yet there are those that propagate a negative connotation of perpetual pain. Depending on the foundation of faith that you have, different resources will be helpful to some, while other resources will be […]

I have dreamt for so long that I would do something significant with my life. Then, I gave birth to the most beautiful baby that ever existed. My son became the reason that I functioned. He became the reason that I took a breath. He became my “everything”. He stayed my “everything”, even after I […]

Grief The first emotion I experienced after placement was grief. I was overwhelmed by what felt like the greatest loss I had ever experienced. In the moment after I watched my son’s parents drive away with him in the car, I fell to the floor, sobbing as if every tear I could ever cry had […]

I dealt with betrayal from unsupportive friends and family members. I lost my home, most of my family, many friends, and grew very weary due to the decision to place my child for adoption. The following tips helped me to cope with the losses. Some of these helped immediately, while others took time. Yet, the […]

The first time I met with my son’s mother was very eye opening. I realized that a future for my son was possible. I became aware that dreams can come true. I had a vision for who I wanted my son to be with, and on that day, my wish came true. Actions Speak Louder […]

Holidays. What do they mean to you? As a child, I was always excited for what they had to bring. I would get to eat like a queen, get all of the attention, and be surprised with gifts. It was joyful. After my grandfather passed away, they were never the same. My family became divided. […]

In my experience, when I was truly ready to choose adoption, I had peace about my decision and wasn’t going to let anything get in the way of that because I knew it was best for my child. I wanted him to have opportunities that I wasn’t able to provide for him at that point […]

The first 24 hours after placement was the worst 24 hours of my life, but it was also the best 24 hours of my life.