The first time I met with my son’s mother was very eye opening. I realized that a future for my son was possible. I became aware that dreams can come true. I had a vision for who I wanted my son to be with, and on that day, my wish came true. Actions Speak Louder […]
Holidays. What do they mean to you? As a child, I was always excited for what they had to bring. I would get to eat like a queen, get all of the attention, and be surprised with gifts. It was joyful. After my grandfather passed away, they were never the same. My family became divided. […]
In my experience, when I was truly ready to choose adoption, I had peace about my decision and wasn’t going to let anything get in the way of that because I knew it was best for my child. I wanted him to have opportunities that I wasn’t able to provide for him at that point […]
The first 24 hours after placement was the worst 24 hours of my life, but it was also the best 24 hours of my life.
It was then that I knew they were the ones. My friend had told me that I would know when I met them and she was right. They were it. I had found my son’s parents.
I was so afraid to move forward with adoption that I partially blocked out this memory. I was in denial of the choice that I knew I was going to have to make.
When I chose my adoption professional, I was honestly seeking transparency in a relationship. I wanted to work with an organization and an agent who wouldn’t keep things from me, or make me feel like they were trying to protect me by keeping the reality of the process from me. I also wanted to make sure that my wishes for my son and the process were respected.
I know that it can be a shock to find out that you are pregnant when it’s unplanned. I went through that. I was floored when I found out that my birth control hadn’t worked and I was going to give birth to a baby. It took time to accept and process that I had a life growing inside of me.
Dearest Younger, Lonely, Lindsay Arielle,
Do not give up or lose hope while you are going through the process of adoption. There are so many things I wish you knew while you are going through this.
Let’s start talking about where we come from and all the people who actually comprise a family through the one tie that binds us: love