If you are pregnant and considering adoption, it can be hard to believe that adoptive parents can possibly love your child the way you do — you might worry that adoptive parents won’t love your child the same way biological parents love their children.
While it may be difficult to imagine, the truth is that adoptive parents have committed wholeheartedly to adoption. They have waited for years and planned for months to build their family through this process, and they are more than prepared to love and care for their adopted child.
For many, the road to adoption is an emotional one, filled with roadblocks of infertility, grief and loss. For these hopeful parents, adoption is the light at the end of a long tunnel — it restores hope lost during those years of fertility treatments and makes all of the waiting worth it.
When prospective parents have waited so long and tried so hard to grow their family, they are going to treasure the child that finally makes their family complete. They will be endlessly grateful for the birth parents who help them realize their dream of parenthood, and they will love their adopted child immensely. After all, they have had years to wait, plan and prepare their hearts and home for an adopted child.
These parents know that their children are truly a gift, and they make the most of every moment spent together. Adoptive parents are more likely to read, sing and tell stories to their children every day, according to “Adoption USA,” a 2007 report by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. They ensure that their children are able to participate in extracurricular activities and support them in school with more than half of adopted children reported to have excellent or very good performance in reading, language arts and math.
Like any parent, they won’t be perfect. They will have challenges, and their bonds will be tested. But even when it is difficult, the love they feel for their child will be unconditional, and it will grow every day. Love is not determined by DNA. It is a bond that is built over time, through caring and nurturing and shared experiences.
As expectant parents considering adoption, the parents that will raise and care for your child is your choice. You will get to choose the perfect family for your child — one that will provide all of the opportunities, stability, and most importantly, love, that you know your child deserves.