When Can You "Give a Child Up" for Adoption?
If you’re thinking about adoption for your child, it’s likely that you have a good deal of questions. How will I know if adoption is the right choice for me? How does adoption work? Can I stay in my child’s life after adoption? When can I start putting my baby up for adoption?
It’s important to research the answers to every question you have. Ultimately, the adoption decision lies with you and you alone, and the best thing you can do for both yourself and your child is to be well-informed. For this particular article, we’re going to focus on the last question we mentioned above: When can you give a child up for adoption?
First, let’s address a very common misnomer in adoption language: “giving a baby up” for adoption is not at all giving up on or “giving away” your child. Some find this terminology offensive, and it’s understandable. Know that if you choose to place your child for adoption — no matter when you make this decision — you are doing so as a sacrifice to give your child the life he or she deserves. In no way is this “giving up.”
When You Can Choose Adoption for Your Child
When it comes to wondering when you can put a child up for adoption, it’s important to know that you can do so at any time. So if you’re asking yourself, “When is the right time to give babies up for adoption?” Know that it is an option for you in any of the following scenarios:
Adoption for unborn babies:
Many women that work with adoption professionals to pursue adoption plans for their babies begin before their children are even born. So, in this case, the answer to “When can I start putting my baby up for adoption?” would be as soon as you discover your pregnancy.
If you are close to your due date, it might seem like it’s too late to choose adoption for your child. This is not at all the case. Whether you have a week left in your pregnancy or you’re going into labor as you make the decision, adoption is always an option for you. Adoption professionals can even help you to arrange a same-day adoption for your child, if you want to complete the process as quickly as possible.
You might assume that when it comes to giving your baby up for adoption, when to decide would’ve been prior to entering the hospital to have your baby. This is not at all the case. If you determine that you aren’t ready to parent at any point while you’re in the hospital, an adoption professional can help you to make an adoption plan, choose an adoptive family, and consent to placing your child for adoption all while you’re in the hospital.
Adoption after you bring your baby home:
Some women assume the window for when you can put a child up for adoption closes after you leave the hospital with your child, but this is not at all the case. Even after you bring your child home with you, you can still work with an adoption professional to choose adoption for your baby.
If you’ve already been parenting your baby and are wondering, “When can a child be given up for adoption?” know that giving a toddler up for adoption is absolutely an option. If you feel that you cannot care for your child properly, or you worry that you might do something that puts him or her at risk, contact the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline.
Older child adoption:
Just as in the above scenario, it is never too late to choose adoption for your older child. The real answer to “When can a child be given up for adoption?” is anytime you feel that it is in the child’s best interests. Again, we encourage you to reach out to the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline if you feel your child is in any danger of being harmed or neglected. If not, you can reach out to social services to learn your next steps.
Some women, when wondering when you can give a baby up for adoption, also wonder if it’s a possibility to place their child in a temporary adoption situation. It’s important to know that any time you place your child for adoption, it is permanent — no matter who you place with. Giving a baby up for adoptionand then getting them back is not a possibility, as this will be a permanent adoption, but you can absolutely consider a temporary guardianship.
Women place their children for adoption for many, many different reasons. And while you may have believed originally that you were prepared to parent, things happen and circumstances change. When giving a baby up for adoption, please know that you can choose to do so at any time when you realize it’s best for your children. As with any other adoption situation, there is absolutely no shame in making this sacrifice so that your child can have all of the opportunities he or she deserves. It is never too late for adoption.
How early can I give adoption consent?
When it comes to an adoption, nothing is set in stone until you give consent to your child’s adoption. So if you’re asking, “When can I give my baby up for adoption officially?” the answer will depend on which state you live in. Each state has different laws regarding consent, but until you consent to your child’s adoption by your state’s guidelines, your adoption decision is not final until consent has been given and any mandatory waiting period has passed.
When to Start Considering the Adoption Process
If you’re wondering when you should give a child up for adoption, know that there is no right or wrong time to start the adoption process. When you start considering adoption, you can begin the process with your adoption professional whenever you feel you are ready. Because, as we demonstrated above, you can put your child up for adoption at any point, please don’t feel the need to rush this important decision.