Putting a Special Needs Child Up for Adoption

How Adoption is Always an Option for You 

If you are thinking about giving up a special needs baby for adoption, you are making a brave and loving decision, and there are adoption options available to you. 

When you find out that your baby is facing medical or developmental needs, you might feel frightened, confused and overwhelmed — for yourself and your baby. This has led many people to ask, “I’m thinking about giving up a special needs baby for adoption. Can you give a special needs child up for adoption?” 

First, you can contact us online to learn more about your adoption options and get connected to a licensed agency.

Until then, don’t worry! Putting a special needs child up for adoption (or placing any child for adoption) is always an option if you feel that’s what’s best, regardless of whether your child is 100% “healthy.” Additionally, there are always waiting adoptive families who are ready and excited to welcome your child, regardless of the additional care that he or she will require. 

Maybe you’ve decided that you’re not ready or able to parent a child with special needs or medical issues. Or maybe you had already decided that you weren’t planning on raising this child, even before you found out he or she had additional needs, and now that you’re “giving a baby up” for adoption with special needs, you’re worried that nobody will want to adopt him or her. 

Not only is adoption possible, but you can you begin viewing adoptive family video profiles today.

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A Note about the Language Used in This Guide 

You might feel like choosing adoption is “giving away” your baby or “giving up”, especially when your child has special needs and you don’t have the resources to care for him or her.  

This couldn’t be further from the truth. Adoption is a difficult but loving choice that involves a great deal of effort, consideration and sacrifice. The decision to find your child the home he or she deserves makes you a hero

It’s for this reason and more that “placing” a child for adoption is the preferred term over “giving up” or “putting up.” 

These terms are commonly heard in everyday conversations typically because the person using them doesn’t know the preferred term. That’s why you’ll see these terms used throughout this page and other pages on this website — to meet people at their understanding of adoption and ensure they can find the information they’re looking for.

Similarly, you’ll notice language regarding children who are differently-abled throughout this article. Many of these terms are not the preferred language, but for now, many people still use them when searching for information about how to put a special needs child up for adoption. 

We encourage you to learn about preferred terminology when it comes to adoption and children with additional needs. For this article, we use these phrases because they are commonly used and understood. 

So, if you’re thinking about placing your child for adoption and they have specific needs, here’s what you need to know about how to put a special needs child up for adoption.

Placing a Child for Adoption Based on Their Specific Needs 

As a prospective birth parent, you might have questions about your child’s specific needs and how they will affect the adoption process. Here are some of the questions that are frequently asked: 

HOW TO GIVE UP AN AUTISTIC CHILD 

Here are some commonly asked questions about placing a child for adoption when he or she has autism: 



However, remember that placing an older child for adoption should always be considered a last resort after you’ve exhausted all other resources.

Again, autism typically isn’t diagnosed until a child is older, which makes adoption less likely of a legal option. You may consider reaching out to local resources, like groups for parents of autistic children, for help parenting your child. Being the parent to a child with autism can be tough, but there is support and help available. 

GIVING UP A CHILD FOR ADOPTION WITH DOWN SYNDROME 

Considering giving a child with Down syndrome up for adoption? Here are some frequently asked questions from people in your situation: 

  • “I’m pregnant and just found out that my baby has Down syndrome. Is giving up a Down syndrome baby for adoption an option for me?” Yes. You can always choose adoption for your unborn baby, including “giving up” a baby with Down syndrome for adoption. 
  • “Can you give up a baby with Down syndrome to the family of your choice?” You always have the right to choose the family that you feel is best for your child. Your adoption agency may reach out to specialized professionals to find an adoptive family who is ready and excited to welcome a child with Down. 
  • “If they’re older, is putting a child with Down syndrome up for adoption still an option?” If your child is older, it may be more difficult to find an adoption agency to help you place them for adoption. Not because of your child’s Down syndrome, but because there aren’t many agencies that are licensed to place older children. 

You may benefit from reaching out to local Down syndrome parenting groups to find resources that can help you parent your older child. 

Just like placing any child for adoption, “giving up” a child with Down syndrome is hard. However, parenting a child who has additional needs is hard, too. Only you can decide if “giving up” a baby with Down syndrome is the right decision for your pregnancy. 

PLACING BABIES WHO HAVE MAJOR HEALTH ISSUES 

If you’re considering “giving up” your baby, major health issues may be one of the factors that led you to this path. Whether your unborn child has a physical, mental, or developmental challenge (or some combination of these diagnoses), you may feel that you’re unable to provide for your child’s physical, mental and financial needs. 

There’s nothing wrong with wanting your child to have the best life possible, even if that means placing them with an adoptive family who is ready and willing to meet their unique needs. So, if you feel that you need to learn how to “give up” a disabled child for adoption, these questions and answers may help: 

  • Can you put a disabled child up for adoption?

    Placing a child with disabilities is tough. You may feel guilty that you’re unable to provide for your child’s additional needs. However, there are many families out there who will love and care for your child just as you do, and they can meet those needs. 

    Can you “give up” a disabled child for adoption? You can always choose adoption. But whether or not adoption is right for you is entirely up to you!

  • Are you allowed to give up your handicapped child?

    As your child’s parent, you can do whatever you think is within his or her best interest. As long as you go through the process of “giving up” a disabled child legally, with the help of a licensed adoption professional, then you will never “get in trouble” for choosing adoption.

  • Can I give my disabled child up for adoption even if their disabilities are severe?

    Yes. As many adoption professionals will tell you, there is a family for every child. However, you may be referred to an adoption professional who specializes in finding the right families for children with severe disabilities.

  • Is putting a disabled child up for adoption possible if their disabilities are minor?

    Sometimes, even minor disabilities that won’t largely impact your child’s life can be intimidating for an expectant parent. Maybe you weren’t ready to be a parent at all. No matter what, there is an adoptive family out there who is ready to love and provide for your child if you are “giving up” a child with disabilities, regardless of his or her needs.

“Giving your disabled child up” for adoption isn’t always the right path, but for some parents, adoption is the best way to ensure their child’s additional needs are met. No matter what, your child will be loved and cared for. 

Helpful Resources 

Adoption isn’t always the answer, especially if your child is past toddlerhood. If your child is older and you’re struggling to parent as a result of your child’s additional needs, there is help. 

Parenting is hard, even in “perfect” circumstances. Parenting a child who requires extra care and resources is twice as hard! 

Understandably, you may sometimes feel stressed, overwhelmed, frustrated, sad and at times, defeated. Reaching out for help is often the best way to care for yourself and your child. Here are some resources that may help you continue to parent your special needs child: 

For more information about your options for putting a child with special needs up for adoption, you can fill out this form and get connected with a trusted and experienced adoption specialist.  

Remember, giving up your child with special needs for adoption is a loving and heroic choice to find them an adoptive family better able to provide a safe and nurturing home.

Learn more about putting a special needs child up for adoption.