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3 Months Pregnant [And Don’t Want the Baby]

There are options for pregnancy at 9-13 weeks, and this guide will give you all the information you need.

An unplanned pregnancy can be one of the most shocking moments of any woman’s life. At 9-13 weeks, you’re a little bit farther along in your pregnancy. You’re probably wondering about which options are still available to you, especially if you’re considering pregnancy termination options at 12 weeks or even a little earlier.

This news can come with a lot of different emotions — from anxiety to confusion, to fear. Maybe you’ve been trying to ignore how you’ve been feeling physically over the last three months, but now you’ve reached a point where you can’t deny your pregnancy or delay your decision anymore. Depending on where you’re at in life, you might not be ready to commit to parenthood.

No matter how you’re feeling, we’re here to help. Whether you’re 10 weeks pregnant but don’t want it, or 9 weeks pregnant and want to “give the baby up” for adoption, you still have options, and most importantly, you still have time to make the decision that’s right for you. In this guide, find out everything you need for your options for an unplanned pregnancy at 9–13 weeks.

And if you’re ready to speak with a helpful adoption professional today, you can click here to contact us.


At this stage, you’re at the middle to end of your first trimester and the beginning of your second. It’s not easy being pregnant, and we know you’re probably ready for those early pregnancy symptoms to go away. While you think about your options for an unplanned pregnancy, especially if you’re 9 or 10 weeks pregnant and don’t want to be anymore, here’s a peek at what’s happening inside your body.

  • 9 Weeks: At 9 weeks, your baby is around the size of a cherry. You might even be showing! And at 9 weeks, the pregnancy hormone HCG is peaking, which means that the pregnancy symptoms you’ve already experienced are at their most severe. You might find it harder to control your emotions, and you could be feeling totally exhausted from all the hard work your body’s been doing.
  •  10 Weeks: You’ve gone from a cherry to a prune! Your baby is growing pretty fast as they officially move from embryo to fetus. Right now, you’re probably still experiencing many of those early pregnancy symptoms that just won’t go away yet. But, once you approach the second trimester, the morning sickness and nausea you’ve been experiencing will start to subside.
  •  11 Weeks: Your baby is growing pretty fast! You’re probably still experiencing an increased appetite along with the morning sickness you’re already accustomed to.
  •  12 Weeks: You’re finally at the end of the first trimester! Your baby is now about the size of a lime. You should feel the urge to urinate a whole lot less.
  •  13 Weeks: At 13 weeks, you’ve finally passed the first trimester of your pregnancy. Now that you’re in the second trimester, you’ll probably start to feel more energized. At this point, your baby is about the size of a lemon.


 Generally speaking, there are three options for an unplanned pregnancy: adoption, abortion and parenting. The options that make the most sense for you may vary depending on a number of factors, including how far along you are in your pregnancy. Ultimately, you are the only person who can decide which of your choices is the best for your life.

To help you in your decision-making process here is some more information about each of your options for an unplanned pregnancy at three months:


For many women, adoption is one of the best decisions they could have made for themselves and their baby. If you’re 9 weeks pregnant and want to “give a baby up” for adoption, you still have plenty of time to make that decision. In fact, it’s never too late to choose adoption for your baby, whether you’re 10 weeks pregnant, 20 weeks pregnant or your baby has already been born.

For many women, adoption is the best choice out of their unplanned pregnancy options because it allows them to set themselves and their babies up for a better future. During an adoption, you are in complete control of the process; you have the option to choose the perfect family for your baby, what you want your hospital stay to look like, and so much more.

Many prospective birth mothers also receive financial assistance to help cover their living expenses during their pregnancy and adoption process, and the process is always 100% free, making it the least expensive of all of your unplanned pregnancy options. In addition, you can also have the option of maintaining a relationship with your child after placement. When you choose adoption, you never have to worry about saying goodbye forever.

“I hope Teddy will always know how much I love him, and that this was the hardest decision I’ve ever made. But I made it in his best interest. I made it for him to have better opportunities, to have a future, to grow up and be something big, and I always hope to be a part of his life,” said Sara, a birth mother, about choosing adoption for her baby.

You can choose adoption for your baby at any time, but it’s a good idea to reach out to an adoption specialist as soon as possible so you can get the information you need. Not only will you receive more information on adoption, but you’ll also be able to ask for resources, like adoption financial assistance, that can immediately make your unwanted pregnancy easier to handle. Many adoption agencies offer a 24/7 hotline, so you can call them whenever you need to, at absolutely no obligation to choose adoption.


Terminating your pregnancy is still one of your early choices for an unplanned pregnancy. But around 10–13 weeks pregnant, abortion options start to get a little slimmer. It really depends on where you live, but many states start limiting medical abortions to around 12 weeks. According to Planned Parenthood, the number of abortions after the first trimester is relatively small. Many women try to get an abortion as soon as they possibly can, but sometimes abortions are delayed due to a lack of access or not knowing that they’re pregnant until later.

If you think you don’t want your baby and you’re considering this unplanned pregnancy option, please talk to your doctor as soon as possible. They’ll be able to give you all of the information you need to determine what 9–13 weeks pregnant abortion options are still available for you.


If you’re three months pregnant and don’t want the baby, parenting is usually the first thought that comes to mind. But, does that mean it’s the right option for you?

If you’re thinking about this option, it’s important to get prepared as quickly as possible. You might think about starting a budget or building your savings in anticipation of your new arrival. Parenting is absolutely not easy, nor is it cheap. Before you consider this option, you should look at your circumstances to make sure that you can raise child and give them the future you always dreamed of. Many women are unsure if they can become parents due to their financial or living situation. They might still be in school, they might already have other children, or they might be living in uncertain living situations. If you think this option is right for you, make sure to do plenty of research beforehand.

If you’re 10 weeks pregnant and don’t want it, or if you’re considering your options for adoption or parenting at 11, 12 or 13 weeks, you still have some time to decide which one is right for you. With that in mind, it’s a good idea to get a plan in motion for each of your unplanned pregnancy options until you make your final decision.


An unplanned pregnancy might be scary, but it doesn’t have to throw your life completely off balance.  To get more information on your unplanned pregnancy options, please don’t hesitate to reach out to an adoption specialist.