7 Months Pregnant, Considering Adoption – Is it Too Late?
You’ve had a lot to think about over the last 7 months. This pregnancy was more than unexpected, and there are probably a few things still on your mind if you’re unsure of which option is right for you. You might be asking yourself:
How do I look into giving a baby up for adoption if I’m already 30 weeks pregnant?
What are my unplanned pregnancy options at 28–31 weeks?
Should I choose adoption or parenting?
These are some big, complicated questions to ask. The good news is that we have answers for every one of them. If you’re 7 months pregnant and don’t want the baby or just don’t feel ready to parent right now, here is some important information you should know.
Your Baby’s Development at 7 Months
Can you believe that your pregnancy is almost over? We’re sure that’s pretty hard to wrap your head around. Whether you’re 28 weeks pregnant and don’t want the baby or 31 weeks and preparing to parent, here is some important information you should know about your baby’s development.
- 28 Weeks: It’s the first week of your third trimester. We bet that by now, you’re probably feeling pretty exhausted. Because your baby is busy cramping up your space, you’re probably feeling shortness of breath, aches and pains, and trouble sleeping. Try to take it easy if you can! If you are 28 weeks pregnant and want to “give your baby up” for adoption, now is a great time to start the process. You can find more information about placing your baby for adoption at 7 months pregnant in the section below.
- 29 Weeks: Even though you’ve got a ways to go, now is a good time to start getting the nursery ready (if you’re planning to parent your baby) and touring the hospital you’ll be staying at. You might also want to start packing the hospital bag so that you can be ready at a moment’s notice. If you’re 29 weeks pregnant and don’t want baby, it’s still a good idea to start preparing for the hospital stay. An adoption specialist can help you make an adoption hospital plan, which will include some additional details about your adoption process — such as whether you want to see the adoptive parents at the hospital.
- 30 Weeks: Just 10 more weeks left to go! At this point, things are going to start feeling really uncomfortable. Try to find a comfortable position so you can get some sleep at night. If you’re 30 weeks pregnant and considering adoption, an adoption professional can help you make a plan whenever you’re ready.
- 31 Weeks: Your baby is looking more and more like a baby every day. If you’re 31 weeks and don’t want the baby, now would be a great time to reach out to an unplanned pregnancy counselor or an adoption specialist.
Your Unplanned Pregnancy Options at 7 Months
Women who consider adoption late in their pregnancy often have some big, important question during the seventh month:
“Is it too late to give a baby up for adoption after 7 months?”
“I’m 7 months pregnant and I want to choose adoption. Does the dad have to agree?”
“How can I find adoptive parents if I’m 7 months pregnant and considering adoption?”
The most important thing to understand right now is that you can absolutely still place a baby for adoption at 7 months; it is never too late to begin the process. Every adoption journey is unique, and an adoption professional will be able to answer all of your questions about choosing adoption in your unique circumstances. Contact one now to get started.
In the meantime, if you’re thinking of “giving a baby up” for adoption at 7 months pregnant, this is what the process typically looks like.
Step 1: Speak with an adoption professional. Calling an adoption agency should be your first step if you’re 28, 29, 30 or 31 weeks pregnant and don’t want the baby. There, a trained specialist will go over all of your options as a woman who’s 28–31 weeks pregnant and wants to give a baby up for adoption.
Step 2: Make an adoption plan. This step is where your assigned specialist will really start to get to know you. They’ll ask you some questions about your plans for adoption, including your ideal adoptive family, how much contact you’re open to, what you want the hospital stay to look like, and more. All of these questions will create an adoption plan that’s made just for you.
Step 3: Find the perfect adoptive parents: Now that you’re 7 months along, it’s time to really start looking at adoptive family profiles. Once you think you’ve found the perfect one, you can start getting to know them your texts, conference calls with your adoption specialist, emails, and even in-person visits. When you’re 7 months pregnant and don’t want baby, you’ll want to find a family as soon as possible.
Step 4: Create a hospital plan and get ready for placement. With the help of your adoption specialist, you can start creating a hospital plan. You’ll be able to decide:
- How much time you plan to spend with the adoptive parents
- Who will be the first one to hold your baby
- If you plan to nurse your baby
- And more
When the big day arrives, you’ll be able to sign the consent to adoption. The amount of time you have to wait to sign this document will depend on which state you live in. Keep in mind, however, that you won’t be able to change your mind once you sign your consent to the adoption and the revocation period has passed. It’s important to make sure that you’re 100% sure that adoption is what you want before you sign away your rights.
Step 5: Build a relationship after the adoption. Many birth parents choose to have at least some amount of contact with their child after the adoption. This can take the form of pictures and letters, phone calls, emails, and in-person visits, but it’s entirely up to you. The good thing about open and semi-open adoption is that you can adjust the amount of contact you’re open to as your relationship goes on. When you’re 7 months pregnant and considering adoption, it’s important to talk to your adoption professional about your desires for an open adoption; this will help them search for adoptive parents who are looking for the same type of relationship with you.
If you keep having recurring thoughts of not wanting your baby at 7 months, adoption can be a great option. Please contact an adoption professional to learn more about your options.
Now that you’re about 7 months pregnant, you may be strongly considering parenting. This can be a great option. However, it’s important to make sure that you’re absolutely ready before you choose this unplanned pregnancy option. If you’re thinking about parenting late into your pregnancy, you’ll want to try and get everything ready as soon as possible. Start putting money towards your baby savings account. Get the nursery together, tour the hospital, and pack your hospital bag in preparation for the big day.
Is Parenting or Adoption Right for Me?
This is a question that only you will be able to answer. Here are just a few things to think about if you’re 28, 29 or 30 weeks pregnant and you’re considering adoption or parenting:
- Can I afford to become a parent?
- Am I ready to be a parent?
- What kind of life do I want my child to have? Can I provide that life right now?
- Do I have a strong support system that will help after the baby is born?
As a prospective birth mother, you have plenty of resources at your disposal. Whether you’re interested in adoption or parenting, please speak to an adoption specialist as soon as possible to learn more about both of your options.
Can I Still Get an Abortion at 7 Months?
Now that you’re 7 months pregnant, it’s highly unlikely that you’ll be able to choose abortion. At this stage in your pregnancy, there are no states that allow elective abortions. The only time when an abortion is an option at this stage in your pregnancy is in an extreme scenario, like a life-threatening emergency. If that’s the situation you’re in right now, please talk to your doctor immediately if you’re 28–31 weeks pregnant and don’t want the baby.
If you are experiencing a life-threatening emergency, call 911 immediately.
Getting Ready for the Last Month
You’ve had a lot to think about during your pregnancy. If you haven’t thought about what your plans are now that you’re in month 7, now would be a great time to speak to a professional about your unplanned pregnancy options. They will give you information on both of your unplanned pregnancy options, at no cost and with no pressure to choose either one.