It’s been fourth months since you’ve found out the big news: you’re pregnant. We know that an unplanned pregnancy can be scary at any month, but especially so when you’re farther along and you’re still unsure of what to do next. You might still be unsure of what you should be feeling, and it probably feels like you’re on a roller coaster of emotions. While you want to do what’s right, you might not be sure of what the next steps should be.
That’s why we’re here to help. It might feel like four months is too late, but this is anything but true. No matter where you’re at in your pregnancy, you still have options, even when you’re 14 or 15 weeks pregnant and don’t want the baby or you’re wondering what your options are for terminating during the second trimester of pregnancy. This might be a difficult spot to be in, but no matter what you’re feeling, know that an unplanned pregnancy doesn’t have to derail your life. To find out what your options are if you’re 17, 16 or 15 weeks pregnant and don’t want the baby, keep reading.
Your Baby’s Development During Weeks 14–17
At this point, the second trimester is well underway. Which means that your baby is growing fast and furious. A lot of big changes have happened over the last few months. Here’s what going on with your body that you’re halfway through your pregnancy.
- 14 weeks: Now that you’re in the second trimester, you’ve probably noticed that you’re starting to show a lot more. Your baby is now around the size of a peach. And hopefully, you’ll start to notice many of the pregnancy symptoms that have bothered you for the last few months start to subside. If you’re 14 weeks and still don’t want to be pregnant anymore, you need to talk to your doctor as soon as possible about your options.
- 15 Weeks: At 15 weeks, you’ll probably feel full of energy — which means that you can get a lot more things done now that you don’t have to worry about that early pregnancy fatigue. You’re probably feeling like you’re eating all the time now, which is pretty normal during this week.
- 16 Weeks: At 16 weeks, you might start to feel the baby moving around, which will be pretty exciting. The baby is also growing fast around this week, so don’t forget to stay in touch with your doctor if you notice any severe weight gain.
- 17 Weeks: At 17 weeks pregnant, your baby is around the size of an avocado. Yum! You’re probably also experiencing some newer symptoms, like really weird dreams and rapid weight gain.If you’re concerned about any of your new symptoms, remember that you can always talk to your doctor.
“I’m 4 Months Pregnant and Don’t Want the Baby. What are my Options Now?”
At four months, it might seem like you’re running out of options. But the good news is that you still have a little bit of time to make a decision. Although your window might be smaller for some of your unplanned pregnancy options, you’re not in as much of a rush as you think you are. If you’re between 14–17 weeks, here’s what you should know about your options for an unplanned pregnancy.
Abortion isn’t an easy decision to make, but it’s the right choice for many women. If you don’t feel like adoption or parenting is the right choice for you, then make sure that you do plenty of research when it comes to 14-week pregnant abortion options.
If you do know that abortion is the best and only option for you, and you don’t want the baby, we encourage you to act quickly. Now that you’re in the middle of your second trimester, your window of opportunity for terminating a pregnancy when you’re 15 weeks pregnant and don’t want the baby is only growing smaller. At this point in your pregnancy, you should know that there are a few states their either severely limit your right to get an abortion or don’t allow it by the middle of the second trimester. If you haven’t had a chance to look, the Guttmacher Institute offers information on state laws and bans on abortion throughout the pregnancy.
If you haven’t made an appointment with your doctor to discuss this unplanned pregnancy option, please do so as soon as possible, especially if you live in one of the states known for their restriction on access to abortions. They will let you know what options are still available in your situation and what to do next if you’re considering your 14, 15, 16 or 17-weeks pregnant terminations options.
You might be in a situation where you’re asking, “I am four months pregnant and I want to put my baby up for adoption. Is this still an option for me?” Absolutely. You can choose adoption at any point in your pregnancy, including at four months.
Now that you’re in the middle of your pregnancy, it might be good idea to move from learning more about to adoption to actually making an adoption plan with an agency. While you can make this plan at any point, starting earlier will give you more time to pick out the perfect family for your baby, decide what you want your hospital stay to look like, and more. You have the option of maintaining a relationship with your child after the adoption through phone calls, pictures and letters and even in-person visits. No matter what you want your adoption experience to look like, you are in charge of the entire process.
If you’re unsure if this option is the right one for you, remember that you can always reach out to an adoption professional for free, no-obligation information.
Become a parent is the dream for many women. If you’re considering this unplanned pregnancy option, then it’s time to start getting ready for your baby’s arrival. Keep track of your spending and make a budget to plan for everything the baby might need. You’ll also need to start getting your home ready along with the nursery. You might also think about signing up for childbirth and delivery education classes to help prepare for delivery. You’ll also want to start thinking of maternity leave. Schedule an appointment with your boss or HR to go over everything that needs to be covered in your absence.
What Happens Next?
As you get ready for the fifth month of your pregnancy, it might be time to really start narrowing down your options. If you need any help at all, or if you’re still not sure which unplanned pregnancy option is right for you, please contact an adoption professional. You are absolutely under no obligation to choose adoption, but you will have the opportunity to learn more about each one of your unplanned pregnancy options in more detail, especially if you’re 14 weeks (or more) and don’t want to be pregnant anymore.