Making an Adoption Birth Plan
Each step of the adoption journey is important. This process is life-changing. Of everything you’ll experience, there may be no more important step than the adoption birth plan.
Giving birth under any circumstances is often a transcendent experience. Painful, difficult, agonizing; yet also beautiful, life-giving and joyous. Add in the unique elements of adoption, and it becomes truly unlike anything else.
You may be anxious about this part of the process. If so, we’re here to help you understand how the adoption birth plan works, how you are always in charge as the prospective birth mother, and who can help you make this important step as smooth as possible.
How the Hospital Adoption Plan Works
With the help of an adoption professional, the prospective birth mother creates an adoption hospital plan. This plan makes all of the decisions about how labor and delivery will go. Since the adoption birth plan is made at the beginning of the process, all of the hard choices are already settled when the time comes.
Every newborn adoption birth plan is unique, because every prospective birth mother is in a unique situation. The circumstances of your life will determine how your plan goes. Things like your medical history, location, openness with the adoptive parents and more will come into play shaping your plan.
One thing that is always the same — when you’re a prospective birth mother, you are in charge of the adoption birth plan.
How You are in Charge of Your Adoption Birth Plan
Depending on how new you are to the idea of adoption, you may still carry some outdated ideas that you’ve picked up from movies and TV shows. You know the image — a scared, lonely woman with no support, dropping her baby off in front of an orphanage, and then disappearing into the night.
That’s not actually how adoption works today. On the contrary, a prospective birth mother has power in the process. She is supported and respected. When you choose adoption, you are in charge of your how your process goes, including your adoption birth plan.
Where You Give Birth
Which hospital feels best for labor and delivery? This is totally up to you, and you don’t have to worry about cost. Adoption financial assistance will cover all medical expenses related to pregnancy. This means that you can focus on where you feel the most safe and comfortable.
Who Gets to Be There
The birthing plan with the adoptive parents will depend on your level of openness, which is also something you decide. Working with your adoption professional, you can decide how much contact you’d like pre- and post-placement with the adoptive family. This includes during labor and delivery. If you’d like, your birthing plan with the adoptive parents can involve them being with you in the hospital. Or, if you’d prefer a bit more space, they can stay away until it’s time for placement.
The Type of Medical Procedures
Every birth is unique from a medical perspective. There are a hundred little choices to make. Each one is up to you. Consulting the medical professionals and adoption agency, you can choose the type of medical care you would prefer during prenatal care, labor and delivery.
Your Time with the Baby
Would you like to spend time with your baby after birth before giving your official consent to adoption? This can be a part of your adoption birthing plan. It is your right to spend those sacred moments after birth with your baby, if that’s what you would like.
While things this this will be a part of your adoption plan, you also have a right to change your mind on the spot. For instance, you may have decided that you don’t want to spend time holding your baby, only to realize in the moment that you would like that time. You can do this at any point during the hospital stay.
These are a few of the ways you are in charge when it comes to the birth plan for adoption. Hopefully, this helps you feel confident about choosing adoption. On the other hand, you could be feeling worried about all the choices you’ll have to make. Don’t worry — you won’t be on your own.
Who Helps Your During Your Adoption Hospital Plan
The modern adoption process is designed to support prospective birth mothers. From start to finish, it’s possible to find the professional help you need to make the process as easy as possible.
These are the people and professionals that will play a part in your adoption birth plan:
Your Adoption Agency
Your adoption agency will provide support and guidance while creating your overall adoption plan, including your adoption hospital plan. The best agencies will be there for you 24/7 throughout the process, answering questions as they come up and ensuring that your plan happens as intended. For more information on finding and choosing an agency to help you create your newborn adoption birth plan, see below.
Your Medical Professionals
While your adoption agency is looking out for your adoption process, it’s most important to keep your health front and center. That’s where you medical professionals come into play. From the OBGYN to the hospital you choose for labor and delivery, your medical professionals will be an important piece your process. Remember, adoption financial assistance will cover all medical expenses related to your pregnancy.
The Adoptive Family
The birthing plan with adoptive parents is part of your overall relationship with the adoptive family through open adoption. There are levels of openness in adoption. You can choose this level yourself, depending on the type of contact you hope to have post-placement and your level of comfort with sharing identifying details. The adoptive parents will be there to support you in whatever capacity you would like them to be present.
Other Family and Friends
Your parents, the father of the baby or close friends could be a part of your adoption birth plan. Working with your adoption professional, you can decide who should be there to support you.
Sample Adoption Birth Plan
If you’re trying to get a sense of how to create an adoption hospital plan, you may be looking for adoption birth plan worksheets and other adoption birth plan templates. These birthing plan examples for adoption can be helpful, but, ultimately, the plan is made with the help of an adoption professional. That means you don’t have to figure it out on your own.
If you’d like to take a look at some adoption birth plan worksheets, you could look at the following guides:
- Can I Make an Adoption Hospital Plan? — American Adoptions
- Make Your Adoption Hospital Plan — Bitni
- How to Create an Adoption Hospital Plan — American Adopts
- Your Adoption Plan — Adoption for my Baby
Find Help Making a Birth Plan for Adoption
Ready to take your next step toward creating an adoption plan? If so, it’s time to start researching potential adoption agencies. Any agency you consider working with should be fully licensed, offer 24/7 availability and make you feel safe and encouraged.
Below you will find several agencies that could help you create an adoption birth plan:
Unsure of who to contact? It’s a big choice, and it can be confusing. If you’d like, you can contact us today to be connected with an adoption professional for a free consultation. This is a no-pressure, no-obligation phone call, with the only purpose of helping you make the best plan for your life.