If you’re considering adoption for your baby, it’s most likely not an easy decision. It’s one that takes time and deliberation, and it can be hard to know what the right path is. Any woman facing an unplanned pregnancy ultimately has three options: parenting, abortion or adoption. It’s completely normal to go back and forth between those, weighing the pros and cons. You and you alone can make this decision for you and your baby, and it’s understandable that it may take some time. The purpose of this article, then, is to let you know that it’s never too late to choose adoption for your child — whether you are days away from delivery, you’ve just given birth or even if you’ve already returned home with your baby from the hospital.
Can you put a baby up for adoption after you take it home?
It might seem like there’s an expiration date on choosing adoption for your baby — somewhere around nine months, to be exact. However, you can place your child for adoption at any point, even after your baby has been home with you for days, weeks or months.
Many women in your position wonder, “Can you put a baby up for adoption after you take it home from the hospital?” The answer to that is yes; there is no maximum age to place your child for adoption. Whether you were too overwhelmed to make the adoption decision prior to delivery or circumstances have changed and you no longer feel you can give your baby the life he or she deserves, it is absolutely possible to make an adoption plan for him or her after returning home from the hospital.
How can you put a baby up for adoption after you take it home?
It’s understandable that you may feel overwhelmed at this point. With a new baby at home and a tough choice in front of you, you may not know which steps to take. If you’re wondering how you can put a baby up for adoption after you take it home, the following outline should get you started:
1. Choose an adoption agency to help you through the process.
A last-minute adoption can be stressful, so you’ll want to make sure you have the support of a qualified adoption agency. When researching, look for an experienced agency that will provide all the services you need to complete your adoption — counseling, support, the capability to match you with the perfect adoptive family, and more. There are many agencies that have helped women to complete adoptions after bringing their babies home from the hospital, and these professionals can help you, too.
2. Fill out your social and medical history forms.
When you start the adoption process with an agency, you’ll be assigned your own individual adoption specialist who will help you to fill out the necessary paperwork and decide what you’re looking for in an adoptive family.
3. Choose an adoptive family for your baby.
No matter how quickly you need to make your adoption plan, you can absolutely still choose your child’s adoptive parents. Your adoption specialist will help you determine what’s important to you in an adoptive family. Do you want your child to have siblings? Where do you envision them growing up? What values are important to you in prospective adoptive families? Once she knows your preferences, she’ll show you adoption profiles of families who meet them.
4. Meet your child’s adoptive family.
This doesn’t take as long as you might expect. Adoption social workers are no stranger to coordinating “pop-up adoptions,” or adoptions that take place after delivery. All it takes is a phone call for a family to drop everything and travel to you. How long it takes from that point will depend on how far away they are, but some adoptive families will even talk to you on the phone as they’re driving or waiting in an airport.
5. Decide what kind of relationship you want with your child’s adoptive family.
There are three types of adoptive relationship: an open adoption, a semi-open adoption, and a closed adoption. An open adoption describes a scenario in which the adoptive parents and birth parents exchange identifying information and handle the contact themselves, whether that’s through phone calls, email, in-person visits or other methods. In a semi-open adoption, your adoption specialist will help to mediate contact and pass along photo and letter updates to you. In a closed adoption, there will be no contact whatsoever. The type of relationship you want to have with your child and the adoptive family after placement is entirely up to you.
6. Complete the adoption.
Once you’ve determined what type of relationship you want to have going forward with your child’s adoptive family, your social worker and an adoption attorney will help you to sign away your parental rights, and the adoptive family will take custody of the baby.
You’re not “giving up.”
Making the decision to put a baby up for adoption after you take it home is not an easy one, nor does it come without feelings of grief and guilt. Please know that, while “giving up” a baby for adoption is a common phrase, it in no way means that you are giving up on your baby. Instead, you made the choice to put him or her first, regardless of how much pain that decision brings to you. It’s the most selfless thing you can do for a child, and if you’re considering it, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.