Choosing Adoption for an Unwanted Child 

One of the biggest misconceptions of adoption today is that every adopted child is “unwanted.” But in reality:  

• Adoption provides the opportunity for a child to be cherished by their adoptive and birth parents. 
• There will always be hopeful adoptive parents who want nothing more than the chance to become parents. 
• As a prospective birth mother, you will never have to worry that your child won’t be adopted. 

If you’re worried about what if an “unwanted” child is not adopted or where to find adoptive parents for an “unwanted” baby, we’ve got the answers. To speak with an adoption specialist who can alleviate your worries, please contact us today.  

In the meantime, here are the facts about an “unwanted” child and adoption.  

Is an Adopted Child Really “Unwanted”?  

Before we dive into the rest of the article, there’s one big there we wanted to clear up: There is no such thing as an adoption of “unwanted” babies. 

The truth is that every woman who chooses adoption for her baby does it because she truly believes it will be the best option for their future. It’s not a lack of love that makes a woman choose adoption, but an abundance of it.  

Women who choose adoption do so because they want their child to: 

• Grow up happy and surrounded by the love of their adoptive family 
• Have countless opportunities to build an incredible future 
• Know that their birth parents love them more than anything and wanted to do everything they could to give them the best chance at life 

So if you’re facing an “unwanted” pregnancy and child adoption, know that you are making an incredibly brave and selfless decision. No matter who you choose for your baby’s parents, they will want them more than you could ever imagine.  

What if an “Unwanted” Child is Not Adopted? 

We know that this is a top concern for many women considering adoption for their babies. But we want to reassure you that there will always be a family waiting to welcome your child into their home with open arms.  

When people ask this question, it’s normally because they’re confusing private adoption with foster care. If you decide to work with an adoption agency, this means that you’re voluntarily placing your child up for adoption and directly into the arms of a loving family. You won’t need to worry about “unwanted” child adoptions, because your social worker will help you find a family who wants to meet your child more than anything else in this world.  

Additionally, choosing adoption also means that you will have access to: 

• Financial assistance 
• 24/7 support and counseling 
• The freedom to make an adoption plan that fits your needs 
• Adoptive families from across the country 
• And more 

If you choose to work with an adoption agency, your child will never have to worry about having to wait to find a family, because there will always be one waiting to meet them. 

On the other hand, when a child enters foster care it is because they have been removed from their home involuntarily. The purpose of foster care is first and foremost to reunify a child with their biological relatives. If they are not able to be reunited with the biological family members, then they may be eligible for adoption through foster care. Typically, children in foster care have a harder time finding permanent homes. They may have special needs or be part of a sibling group, which makes it hard to provide adequate care for them. This is likely where the idea of unwanted child adoption came from. But with an infant adoption agency, you will never have to worry about your child not finding a home. 

Can Every Unwanted Baby Be Adopted? 

Yes! While it’s difficult to find an exact number, there are some sources claiming that around 2 million hopeful couples are waiting to become parents. When you decide to make a plan for your baby, you can rest easy knowing that they will always have a loving family waiting for them.  

Where to Find Adoptive Parents for Unwanted Babies 

The best place to start looking for adoptive parents for your baby is through an adoption agency. After contacting an adoption specialist, they will help you create the perfect adoption plan. There, you’ll include exactly what you’re looking for in an adoptive family. To make things easier, start by asking yourself questions like: 

• Do I want to find a family who lives in the city or the country? 
• Do I want my child to grow up with siblings or do I want them to be an only child? 

• Should the adoptive family have pets? 
• Do I want to share the same religious affiliation with the adoptive family? 
• And more 

We know that many birth parents worry that they won’t find the perfect family for their baby, or that their adopted child will be “unwanted.” When Frances, a birth mother, had similar doubts, her adoption specialist gave her the encouragement she needed: 

“Rachel said, ‘Frances, you’ll know when you have picked the perfect family,’” Frances says. “When we talked to Chris and Courtney, in the middle of the conversation, I knew Chris and Courtney were the ones.” 

To find the perfect family for your baby today, you can contact us online to get started. But if you’d like to take a look on your own, you can start your search online with our list of online adoptive family profiles. Remember, there is no such thing as the adoption of unwanted babies. No matter what you’re looking for, you will always find the perfect family for your baby who will be thrilled to meet them.  

Who Can I Contact About the Adoption of Unwanted Babies? 

If you’re interested in learning more about adoption, an agency can help. To speak with one today, please contact us online. No matter what you’re looking for, an adoption specialist can help you find the perfect family for your baby.